First Post From London
I’m sorry that it’s taken so long to write our first post from London…but we’re here, we’re safe, and we’re…OK. We didn’t think that this would be easy by any means, but we certainly didn’t think that it would be this difficult and stressful either! These past couple of weeks, we’ve gone back and forth from simply being uneasy and stressed to thinking that we’ve made the worst decision of our lives.
First, our flat is really cute! It’s a perfect size, and is really nice. We also knew ahead of time that it was furnished, but we didn’t realize just how furnished it was! Furniture, beds & bedding, tables, wardrobes, TV, sheets, silverware, pots & pans, dishes, pictures & art, books, etc. Not all of it is really our style, but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise since we didn’t have to purchase these essentials the first few days we were here. Our landlord even got us some food, flowers, and a nice card before we arrived!
Our first major hurdle was/is money. We saved plenty of cash from when we sold our house in Spokane, and our bank suggested we take out a cashier’s check to deposit into our new UK bank account. OK, cool. So we opened our UK bank account and said “here’s all our money!” To which they responded: “since this check is so large and in US currency, it won’t clear for 6-8 weeks.” Crap! Crappity-crap-CRAP!
Then there’s Simone’s school. After the school-year starts, all of the individual schools handle their own admissions. So we’ve been calling and visiting and calling and calling all of the primary schools anywhere near where we’re living. They’re all full and the waiting lists are long, long, long! I pleaded and they wouldn’t budge. They told me to call the Barnet School Admissions office, the Barnet School Admissions office told me to call the schools! Helpful. We finally found a school for her…and it’s a good school…but it’s not very close. We haven’t done a transportation trial run yet, but it’s looking like it could be a 45-60 minute bus ride. We’re still on the waiting lists for closer schools, so we’ll see how that works out.
In an article titled “Culture Shock – the unseen element that can make or break your immigration experience”, they list the 5 stages of culture shock. Phase 1 is the “honeymoon phase”, where you’re supposed to feel excited and euphoric about living living in a new coutry. It seems we’ve completely skipped Phase 1 and started squarely in the middle of Phase 2, the “emptiness phase” (which is supposed to take place 2-4 months after moving): lonliness, irritability, frustration, sleeplessness, lack of confidence, and accomplishing even the simplest of tasks takes longer and with more effort. Awesome…so far so good!
I’ve got a lot more to post about, and I promise I’ll post much more often once we have reliable internet access (for some reason, it takes 2 weeks to get a phone and broadband internet here in one of the largest metropolitan cities on the planet…that’ll be a whole post unto itself!).
December 8th, 2008 at 11:25 pm
You guys will be great, give it time to become normal. Be strong and happy. You’re always in my thoughts and prayers.
December 10th, 2008 at 7:37 pm
I feel for you. Hang in there. What comes to mind is when our ancestors emigrated from Europe. Can you imagine leaving your families and knowing that you will never see them again? And the only communication was possibly snail mail. Oh and don’t forget language barriers. All non-English speaking Germans! But they forged on to give their families a better life. . . and here we are. I’m certainly grateful I didn’t have to grow up in Russia!! We love you and stay strong! I have every confidence in you. Love, your Mom
December 11th, 2008 at 2:56 am
Hi. Don’t feel lonely. I realize that’s easier said than done… We’re all here thinking of you. Stay strong! I’ll visit soon. : )
December 12th, 2008 at 4:19 am
If any family can figure out how to get it done, it’s you guys. We all believe in you. As Dr. Kelso says, “Nothing in this world worth having comes easy”. What you have already overcome to get where you are proves this. Kick butt and get it done. GO SHEARS!
December 17th, 2008 at 6:42 am
We will keep you guys in our prayers.. Maybe you will get to go back to that honeymoon phase at some point